Bipul K Debnath

Yes, it is really discourteous to say ‘No’ while talking to someone. Most of you are likely to favour saying ‘Yes’ to maintain good terms with family and friends, don’t you? But what happens in the end? You may have to face an unwelcome situation, and may hamper your way of life, unnecessarily. But do you always have to say ‘Yes’, in spite of having to face unpleasant circumstances? Of course, not! That is why we need to say ‘No’ once in a while to make our life more comfortable and easier.
Saying ‘No’ is important when, for example, your friend invites you to a family programme that you are not too keen on attending. Suddenly, a huge pressure is imposed on you. You may think that you have no other choice than attending the programme. How can you manage the situation? Possibly, you need to say ‘No’ cordially, explaining your inability to attend.
It is obvious to say that most people do not like to share the real reason for avoiding a certain event, they rather face a dilemma to maintain their relationship. But it is always better to say ‘No’ at the very beginning of the invitation, if it is really impossible to accept it.
Another instance, for example, is when your parents want you to be a student of science, but you would love to study the arts. In this circumstance, you may not be able to oppose them instantly. But don’t take much time to say ‘No’ and give them a logical explanation in favour of your choice.
Not being able to say ‘No’ in such types of situation can create long-term pressure on the brain and greatly hamper your daily life. Who doesn’t want a smooth life? So, saying ‘No’ cordially and confidently is the only way out. But the question is how to say ‘No’, maintaining all sorts of niceties?  
Actually, it is not so difficult. And it is also a bright side of good manners. Though at first it may seem a bit bitter in nature or even strange, but in the long run it will have a positive effect on your life. Mutual understanding, sharing information, showing strong logic in favour of your decision and being honest to yourself will help you to say ‘No’. In a nutshell, you have to practise it in your daily life. Wish you a happy and fruitful life!