Souman Guha

If you are not a nerd like Sheldon Cooper of the ridiculous TV serial ‘Big Bang Theory’, you will definitely find love along with oxygen and carbon dioxide in the air of Bangladesh, without any strenuous process like reading romantic poems or novels. 
From birth, people here are plunged into the elixir of love. Under a full moon, grandma tells us tales of star-crossed affairs like Radha-Krishna, Laili-Majnu.
Verily, you cannot deny the love here, be it for family or for country or for your better half. There is no scope for rambling like a vagabond! You will feel the adage: Humankind is free, but everywhere in chains. Our forefathers probably debunked the enigmatic character of love. As a short-lived sojourn on earth, it is not wise to confine our life to prehistoric prejudices. Your beliefs must be synchronous to modern times.
Love is not like cast iron. So, none can give the guarantee of durability in a relationship. But obviously, there are some golden keys to happy relationships. Now, I am debunking these secrets.

After a certain period of togetherness, some of us feel like leaving. Even after having a conjugal life for two or three decades, some still feel so. It may be true that getting the right person at the right time is rare. “Tomake biye kore ki pelam?” (What did I get from marrying you?) _ is a common dialogue in married life. But mutual understanding can be the best glue here to tighten the bonding. Sometimes, love is blind, but not all the time. And you have to be ready to sacrifice to make sure you keep the commitment that you made to your partner.
 Sometimes, it is a common scenario that you love your spouse, but your relatives or friends start badmouthing him or her. It is true that it is not your spouse; rather, it is interference from a third party that creates the bigger problem in your relationship. So, try to settle this by avoiding them. It is the best and only way to curb the problem.
Sometimes, we find many couples complaining that they lack quality time together, ‘out of sight, out of mind’, as the saying goes. So, try to make quality time. If you are married, try to spend intimate moments together, being close to each other will bring hearts closer. Never forget to mention how passionate you are about keeping the relationship going strong. 
Another thing, don’t be authoritative or unjust towards your partner. Sometimes, men in our country think that they have the right to go out with friends, but their wives or girlfriends don’t. This type of narrow-minded thinking, along with a suspicious mind, is mostly responsible for break-ups and divorces. 
When in the dating stage, try to share your feelings, recite a poem sing a song, present flowers or gifts. Praise his or her getup and clothes. Complimentary words make you special to your partner. I call it the first pillar of ‘Love Management’. 
Sweet talk may win hearts, but don’t make futile effort to be romantic, if you are not. Instead, tell him or her about your life’s goals, your likes and dislikes, your family and background, your life before you met etc. Be honest and sincere. Those, too, win hearts.   
Finally, have a happy relationship, and don’t forget to try out my strategies! 

The writer is a BBA student of Bangladesh University of Professionals.